Making Friends in a new city
It can be really scary to move to a new city and know nobody. But millions of people experience it every year, and it could end up being the best decision you make.
The first thing to acknowledge is that it can suck - but you can’t quit.
You might feel lonely for a few months, you might regret moving here, but that won’t last, and you will make friends.
You’re used to being in college, surrounded by similar aged people at your fingertips, so it is natural that such a drastic change will feel weird. But you can’t quit because you’re afraid it’s not going to work.
Go to meetup.com and find an interest group.
Surround yourself with people who love doing things the same things as you. Give yourself a place you can look forward to going to.
Go to a bar or restaurant and sit at the bar.
Strike up a conversation with the person next to you. It might feel scary if you’ve never done it before, but most likely they will be open to chat.
Use “I’m new in town and don’t know many people” to your advantage.
Thousands of people are transplants and have experienced not knowing anyone - they get it.
More times than not, they will be open to talking with you, inviting you somewhere, or giving suggestions for events and activities.
Think about old friends that are in the area that you might have lost touch with, reach out to them!
Ask your circle of friends from back home if they know anyone in your new city that they could introduce you to.
Don’t be in a huge rush to make 50 friends. Find 2-3 people you genuinely like and work on those relationships.
If you’re feeling burnt out from too much networking and socializing, take a pause.
If you’re not going out on the weekends, that is OK.